WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

Peter Wynn
2 min readDec 3, 2023

A woman on the platform that Elon Musk has well and truly stuffed posed a question to pro-life men that if their wife was raped by another man, and she fell pregnant and wanted to keep the child, would they divorce her or help her raise the child as if it were their own. I am pro-choice, but this got me thinking of something.

I have seen in soap operas, instances where wives have told their husbands that they were pregnant, and the man has been overjoyed at the thought that he’ll be a father, only to have that turn to dismay after the birth, if the child needs an urgent blood transfusion, and the mother is not a perfect match and the father is not a match, and it turned out that his wife had cheated on him while he was away at a conference or the like. Or, in some cases, once the child is a teenager and they need a kidney transplant, and they discover that they are not the child’s biological father.

At my age, I am not planning to have children. My response would be, and I know this is different, but if I had met a woman when I was younger, who already had a child, and she told me that the child had been conceived as the result of a rape, but she decided to keep the child, and we loved each other, and we were going to get married, then, as long as I didn’t know what the rapist looked like, and the kid only shared half the DNA but did not take after the rapist and the rapist had no visitation rights, and I loved the child, okay. But if I had a wife and she was raped, and fell pregnant and wanted to keep the baby, it would not be easy for me to see the child and know the circumstances under which it was conceived, and I would support her through a rape trial, but it would not be easy to love a child under those circumstances. And you’d be raising another person’s baby; someone you would, if you loved your wife, despise. The anger I would feel towards the rapist would be too great.

I truly believe that it is an injustice of the highest order for any nation-state to deny a woman the right to an abortion if she is raped. That is no time for ministrations.

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Peter Wynn

Diagnosed with autism at 35. Explained a lifetime of difference.