This reminds me of an interview with Australian girl group x3 (Brianna, Anna and Fiona) and Anna said that when a guy found out that she was a singer, he said, "Oh, my God! Sing me a line!" And she replied, "Nooooooo!" "Would you like my number?" "Nooooooo!" "Well, can I have yours?" "Noooooooo!" She said that she'd give him ten points for trying. The odd thing about that is, it's quite usual for someone, if they meet their idol, to become starstruck and tongue-tied, but x3 weren't a major group. They had a hit with "Girl Like Me," and released one CD, but they haven't been heard of for a while.

Do I think you're mean or insincere? Well, if he was a shy guy, and it was an open mike night at a karaoke bar, and he'd had a skin full of alcohol and sang with Dutch courage, I don't think he had good friends. If I had been his friend, I would have said, "Okay, it's understandable to be nervous about telling a girl how you feel, but you'll only make a fool of yourself on stage if you do that. If she doesn't feel the same, everyone will know, and even if she's touched by it, you could isolate her." (The girl who I told you about who you said was like Mean Girls, would humiliate you, if you did). " If he was your lover and he did that, again, if I was his friend, I would have said, "No, no, stop!" If, however, he was someone not blessed with much and you really didn't feel the same way, I wouldn't think you were horrible.

I think the best way, if you want to ask a girl out, is get to know her and then, casually say, if she mentions say a movie that you both like, maybe say, "Want to go and see it?" If she says yes, then you can say, "Want to come with me?"