In Australia, there is an idiot in the senate by the name of Pauline Hanson, who tried to pass a preposterous motion (the only place she should pass a motion is on the toilet) that trans kids be removed from their parents, as she believed that it was parents wanting a child of the opposite sex who were trying to force their kids to transition. Any reputable gender clinic would be able to see that and decline to prescribe puberty blockers. In the opposite vein, parents do NOT have the right to say to a trans kid, "No, you have to be cisgender."

If a child is transgender and the parents don't know, what you have to ask is why. Is the child afraid to tell the parents?

It is NEVER the case that a five-year-old child who wishes they were of the opposite sex surgically transitions. They may be permitted to socially transition.

Grooming a child is where the adult identifies their target and homes in on them. Say the groomer is a teacher, they'll see a student who is a high achiever, or appears to have a problem. For instance, I had a teacher at school who said that if he came up to one of us and gave us a very firm hug, he was worried about us and wanted to know why. One boy had family problems. He also told us one day that we all knew that he wasn't supposed to touch us and that he could lose his job if an allegation was proven. Trans adults in schools should be thought of as being like the school nurse who came to talk to us one day who said that if we had a problem that we didn't feel comfortable talking to our folks about (a health problem, for example), we could talk to her. That's NOT grooming. And most trans adults who visit schools do NOT say to the kids, "Don't talk to your parents. Talk to me, instead," they say, "If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, you can talk to me. And if you want to tell your parents and you want a support person there, I can help."

And for this nonsense about protecting our children, let's not forget that there are kids in the community for whom Aunty Michelle used to be Uncle Michael or vice versa, and their parents let them go and visit them. And if you really want to get into it, MOST instances of pedophilia are not a strange man in a grubby raincoat with nothing underneath who flashes them, it is uncles, grandfathers, fathers, godfathers and trusted family friends. And they are cisgender not transgender. And most trans folk don't particularly want to show you their genitalia!