I think people need to bear a few things in mind here. If we take Sir Elton John as one example, back in 1984, he married Australian Renate Blauel, in a lavish ceremony in Sydney. The marriage did not last. At the time, Elton identified as bisexual but that was a steppingstone to being gay.

What people need to bear in mind here also, is this. There are older members of the gay and lesbian community, who didn't come out until they were in their late 40s, early 50s, or even later. Some of them remained single, but others, perhaps for familial or social reasons, entered into heterosexual marriages and many of them genuinely loved their husbands or wives, but could no longer maintain the facade and either the marriage broke down or their partner died (former Australian politician, Neale Blewitt is a classic example here. He was in a gay relationship during his university days; he married a woman, and she was electrocuted and died, in the 1980s, and he resumed a homosexual relationship with his old partner afterwards) and they entered into a relationship with a person of the same sex. What people need to remember is, that does not make them bisexual.

And what some gay and lesbian people need to remember when it comes to bisexual people is this. If a person went from the KKK to the Simon Wiesenthal Center, people would be justified in having reservations about their sincerity and trusting them, but a bisexual woman who has had a male partner, or a bisexual man who has had a female partner, should not be seen as a threat to a gay or lesbian.

I see bisexuals a bit like this. My paternal grandfather had a Morris Commercial van, then a Chevrolet and four Holden cars. Between 1966 and 1971, however, he had a Ford Falcon, and he bought his second Holden, an EK, and he kept it and the Falcon together, until 1980s, when he bought another Falcon, then he sold the second Falcon and bought a Holden Commodore. I see it as being like, Fred Smith is a Holden fan, and he has the choice of a Holden or a Ford as a company car. He chooses a Holden. In 1986, however, the company, for some reason, decides to only deal with Ford, and he is given a Falcon as his company car. At the end of 1989, the lease on the car is due to expire, and Fred is called into the office, at the age of 60, to be told that the company no longer needed him, but in the light of his long service to the company, the company decides to give him a redundancy package of two years' salary, and they decide to throw in the company car as an added sweetener. Fred accepts it, and, surprisingly, he liked his Falcon, and he kept it for 11 years after he left the company, before he reverted to a Holden, or decided to buy a Toyota instead. So, a bisexual might be in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, then a person of the same sex.