I remember, when I was in Year Twelve, at high school, a girl in Year Eight told me that I was a gentleman because I held the door for her. Okay, I didn't do it to make a big man of myself, I opened the door to walk through and she came around the corner from the staff room and I stood back to let her come past, observing the convention not that men should open doors for women, but that you let people leaving a building or public transport off before entering.

Another time was when I was when I was older and I saw a woman on crutches struggling to open the door to a post office, so I opened the door for her. She thanked me and said that I was a gentleman.

I have also held doors for men and even children, who have been carrying boxes or other such things. I have to say, I appreciate it, if , for example, I'm pushing a shopping trolley, and I want to go into a shop, for one final thing, and someone opens the door for me, and I thank them.

I have to admit, though, that as much as he means well, I get a bit annoyed with my father if he offers to lock the door when I'm going out, because I think to myself, "I can do that." I appreciate his concern, but I see it a bit as infantilizing.

One Australian woman, for whom I have no regard or respect, though, is Pauline Hanson. Okay, I wouldn't cross the street to talk to her, but, I would have no hesitation, if I saw her at a polling booth, in telling her what I tell all her booth workers who offer me a How To Vote Card, in telling her that I will take one from her, "When Hell Freezes Over." I remember her, in 1998, saying that she appreciated men buying her a drink or opening doors for her. Hanson cannot be described as a feminist, and she views any attempt to discuss domestic violence as "demonizing men". I do not see it as demonizing men at all. One thing that we need to get clear is, stressful or unhappy jobs, mental illness, alcohol or whatever else are not causal factors in domestic violence. Domestic violence is about control, and I have seen that. I have a woman I hold in deep regard, who was abused by her husband, and the sickening thing was, he pretended to care about her in public.

I know murder is an extreme example, but I saw a case on Forensic Investigators, where a very jealous man saw a male friend of his partner's in a pub, and he walked across and threw his drink over him. She ended the relationship with the man who threw his drink over the other man that night, and a few weeks later, she began a relationship with the man who had his drink thrown over him. The jilted man waited outside the man's house, and then stabbed him. The ridiculous doctor who claimed that men and women cannot and should not be friends and we should stick to our own sex, claims to have given advice to women on how they can be a better friend to their partner, to which I say, in this case, and in many others, he would have been validating the jealous man if he'd told the woman to break off her friendship with the man who would be murdered.

That ridiculous doctor also claims to have been shunned by the few women he was attracted to, to which the only suitable reply is, "I wonder why!" And it doesn't take a PhD in psychology to answer that!

A man who considers himself a good man is a shallow man.