I remember seeing the preposterous faux feminist ramblings of a ridiculous doctor who doesn't believe that men and women could or should be platonic friends. This doctor wrote an article about how a person's mortgage could be making them sick only to seemingly make it about overcommitting kids and how women are tired. I could have summed it up by saying that women want to have careers, and so they should, but men need to step up a lot more around the house, as in, rather than the woman having to make breakfast, prepare school lunches for the kids and work lunch for her husband, and then have to drive the kids to school and prepare their uniforms, men need to take it in turns with their wives to take the kids to school. And that the role of a man should not have to be entirely provider, it should be as father, as in, doing things with the kids, and husband, as in being there for his wife.

This ridiculous doctor also claimed, based on what, i don't know, that men want women to be "a bit more feminine," and that if women spend too much time around men, they, "take on their characteristics and become less attractive to men." Now THAT is crap and misogynistic crap at that!

One reason why I think that gay men seem to get on well, like you say is that the image that people have of gay men being all feminine is inaccurate. You can walk into one property owned by two gay men and it's all neat and tidy, but you can go into another and find empty beer bottles and empty pizza cartons, because they can live like two old bachelors who are sexually attracted. Another thing that people need to be mindful of with threats to kill is that with the example you've described of, "If you sing that song again...." even if the person was murdered, days later, even if you went to the police and said, "Yes, I heard so and so yell it out in an argument," they would most likely say, "Okay, did they have the person pinned up against the wall with a knife at their throat?" "No." "Was the person walking along the street and the other person driving their car and they stopped with the engine revving and yelled out that they were going to do it?" "No." They'd probably discount it unless there was forensic evidence placing them at the crime scene.