I can relate to so much of what you say. I am autistic and I am beginning with MTF transition. I have been mistaken for a woman on the telephone and my brother's friend's friend thought I was gay.

The point about white supremacy ties in so strongly with why TERFs are wrong. In Australia, the default position for saying somebody is Australian is that they're white, and even if a Chinese person, for example, is fourth generation Australian, they are seen as a Chinese-Australian or an Asian-Australian. Even a first generation person of Chinese heritage born in Australia is Australian, not a Chinese-Australian. Whether or not a woman was born a girl or transitions from male, she is still a woman and excluding her is wrong.

As someone who lives in Australia, I cannot stand that redheaded populist fool who stormed out of the senate the week before last, but I use another analogy from the rot that she spouted in 1996. Say you were a student who came over here from Malaysia, in 1977 to study at an Australian university. At that time, you probably would not have moved into a share house near the university with three or four fellow Malaysians. You might have moved into a house with a couple of Australians and one of them might have said, "Okay, this is how we cook, here," and they tossed a steak into a frying pan and emptied a can of baked beans into a saucepan and heated them up on the stove and said, "Okay, you put the cooked steak on the plate and you pour the baked beans over it," and that was how they integrated. A transwoman still needs to be able to integrate as a woman, and who better to help them than either another transwoman or a cisgender woman. If a cisgender female friend of hers says, "Okay, you're one of us, now," and says, "Let's go to a shoe sale!" or, "Okay, you want to buy your first pair of jeans as a woman? Come and we'll have a look," and help her choose her style.