A female friend of mine said that she had nothing against transwomen she just didn't want them in women's spaces. I remember a woman, when I was in line at a post office, telling me that she couldn't forgive the Japanese for the war because two of her brothers were killed in it. She said that she didn't have a problem with seeing Japanese people in the street, but she didn't want to buy anything Japanese, but she admitted to me that her husband had a Landcruiser Prado and she liked it and it was a comfortable car! I thought, if you take the first sentence and apply the extreme of the second, it's like someone who lived through the Second World War and lost friends or family members to it saying, "My daughter and son-in-law have three kids and they bought a Toyota Landcruiser Prado. I don't begrudge them for it, I just won't let them park it on my driveway when they come to visit and won't even let them park it undercover if they come to visit and a hailstorm is brewing." Or, to take another example, I knew a man who had to drive a Ford, in 1966, and a screw from the master cylinder was missing and every time he put his foot on the brake, the pedal went closer to the floor and he nearly crashed it through the wall of the factory where he was working, and he hasn't driven or ridden in another Ford since. Okay, it would have been scary, but what's he going to do if someone driving a Ford stops behind him at the traffic lights? Jump out of the car and scream at them to change lanes?
When it comes to lesbian spaces, I say this. If a lesbian doesn't PERSONALLY wish to date a transwoman, that's her right as an individual, just like a non-smoker saying that they don't want to date a smoker, but to deny a transgender lesbian the right to enter a club is akin to former Australian RSL Vice President and Victorian RSL President, Bruce Ruxton, kicking up a stink because a man who had served in the Air Force wanted to join the RSL but wanted to bring along his Japanese wife! True story, it was a friend of mine's father and stepmother!
And has it not occurred to some ciswomen that some transwomen might be asexual? What some of them need to remember is, some transwomen might reduce their testosterone, but due to health conditions, cannot move as quickly.
And here's something else for ciswomen to remember. Some ciswomen say that they don't want to wax or shave their legs, armpits, etc. but they object to how transwomen present. Surely, what's good for the goose is also good for the gander.